A few years ago, I found myself on my own, after the father of my two children decided to leave us. I worked hard to take care of my family and didn't really have much of a social life of my own. I had two good friends in similar circumstances who helped me through this period. What social life we had was usually at one of our homes together, snacking, watching TV, or just talking. Often our conversations wandered into what type of man we would like to have in our lives the next time love came calling. Of course, we never really expected to meet the perfect specimen that we dreamed up within our lifetimes. It was just fantasy after all!
An acquaintance of mine suggested one day that I try out a new dating site that she had just heard about. Lets Call it Dorks-r-us to avoid any liability issues. I met this dork, I mean man (loosely) the first night on the site, he sounded very intelligent, funny and from what he was telling me seemed very well rounded. As we chatted with each other over a few weeks, I let him know that I had not been with a man in quite a while, and needed to take things slow. I let him know upfront that I had two children because I wanted to be honest with him from the start, he informed me that he also had a child so it was no problem because he loved children. He said that he loved kids and that being with his son was the biggest joy in his life. Everything seemed good to me, so I agreed to go out for dinner and dancing with him.
Well on the evening of our date I ran around like headless chicken picking out clothes, picking up one of my friends who was going to babysit, getting my hair done (you know the whole nine yards thing) just to look my best for this hunk, at least that’s how he looked in his profile photo. My friend told me to calm down before I hyperventilated, she told me to try not to look too needy or I would scare him off. “Oh my god if only that had been true!” In any event, I finally calmed down by going outside to wait for him. Then all of a sudden there he was! I eagerly rushed forward to set my eyes on the incredible body, great hair, and green eyes. I bent over to say hi and was shocked senseless! I thought, “please god tell me its not him!” I actually pinched myself to wake up from this horrible dream, but to no avail. The he sat, and he sure was not what I was expecting! I was so stunned that I just stood there like a dumb mute. Not knowing what else to do, I silently got into the car.
Well, at least it was not all bad. The rug on his head looked like it was skinned from the hind end of a Labrador retriever, and I like Labrador retrievers. He must have posted a picture of someone else. He did not even begin to look like his online picture. He was as bald as a billiard ball under that amazingly bad toupee. And he was not even bright enough to have made it a blond toupee. He did not have green eyes like his picture. They were bloodshot, dark, and somewhat shifty. He looked like he had a serious drug addiction. The well toned muscles in the picture were nowhere in evidence on this sorry excuse for a man. He told me he was taking me to a top notch restaurant. As we pulled up to the “Pig And Trough”. Well, at least the restaurant was in a neighborhood where nobody that I knew would frequent.
We were placed in a corner table.. It was actually not that bad looking from the inside. The decor was nice, and the waiters were all dressed in suits and ties. Maybe his idea of classy was not that bad after all. I had the fish special with sweet potato fries and he had a rack of lamb with roasted potato's. All the while I kept having to remove his hand from my thighs. He made a comment about how he liked women like me because we had not been with a real man in so long that we were desperate for sex. I responded that I would sooner have sex with a cucumber than with him. After eating, he asked me to dance. Once again, I had to keep removing his hands from various parts of my anatomy. I guess to show me what a great catch he was he decided to show off his dancing prowess. He tried to jive with me. At one point his hand slipped out of mine and I stumbled into the bar. Well that was about all I could take. I stormed out of the restaurant and caught a cab outside to the hospital. I was lucky that my broken nose set almost straight. In any event it is a constant reminder that I need to be more careful.
No more dating advice for me! From that point on I did my own site sleuthing. I worked long and hard and found several decent sites.
While I was researching dating sites, I stumbled across the following link, and it helped me zero in on the sites that I finally joined:
Personals Online
This is a tale of woe that for lack of a better name I will call Cindy's Bogus Dating Adventure. As you may have guessed already, I am Cindy.
At the time that this happened, I worked for a corner store in the greater Boston area. We had some decent customers by and large, but we had our share of nut cases too. Not to sound conceited, but men have always hit on me a lot, so I am sort of used to it in a way. This particular guy seemed really nice, and had been working on me for months before I finally relented. In actual fact, we had actually met in a chat room online about the same time I started working in the store. Being careful, I decided to meet him someplace rather than have him pick me up at home. First dates are always tricky and I like to be able to depend only on myself for transportation. We met at a restaurant, and since it was a nice night, we opted to eat outside. Here is where he got a little odd…. first he gives me a a little box of chocolates the brand name was Cindy (my name is Cindy so I thought at first that it was a cute gesture) then he asks me to eat one or two in a strange creepy way. As we waited for the entree to arrive, he made a game of feeding me chocolates while I struck up sultry and sexy poses. For every new pose, I got a chocolate. Then finally he gets me to start to be sultry and sexy while I am eating the chocolates. We got through our appetizers, and started on the entrees. I was starting to feel a bit giddy and was wondering about that because I had barely sipped my wine, but I just put it down to that anyway. He was looking at me a bit strangely, and I was starting to get self conscious. I was thinking that maybe I had something on my teeth or something, but when I asked him he just laughed it off.
When I had first sipped my wine, I thought it tasted great, but I noticed that it seemed to be tasting off the more I drank it.
About half way through the entree I was truly getting creeped out and decide to go to the bathroom to call a friend of mine for some helpful advice. My friend was a bit concerned, but told me to just brave it out because I was most of the way through the date already. She just said to make sure that I did not go anywhere with him afterwards. So I returned to the table and he gives me another chocolate. What did I know at that tender age? I just went with it. I was hoping that it would become funnier. I had never been in such a strange situation so I decided to take it as ‘experience’ and have fun with it, (bad idea on my part).
But then I took a drink of my wine, unfortunately a pretty big one because I was really starting to get nervous. Immediately I noticed it tasted a lot different, and glancing over at him as casually as I could after drinking it. I could tell that something was in the wine, and it was obvious to me that he had done it. I was suddenly in the middle of a nightmare! I needed to figure out what to do, but I needed time to put a plan together. So I sat there as if nothing was wrong, and even pretended that I was sipping my wine. After a half hour or so, I told him I had to go to the bathroom again, making it a joke like I drank too much wine so he wouldn’t know I was getting wise to him.
I found our waiter, and took him aside telling him the situation, and asked if there was a back door to the place. I needed to get out of there now! He had a busboy take me out the back way to my car. At the same time, my waiter went back to talk to my date about ordering desert and coffee. I quickly hauled my butt to my friends house. Luckily she only lived a few blocks away because by the time I got there I was ready to pass out. After convincing my friend I did not need any medical attention we laid down and listened to some music and eventually I fell asleep. When I woke up I was shaking at the thought of knowing it was probably the date rape drug or something that he had put in the chocolates as well as my wine.
Looking back on it, I regretted not calling the police from the restaurant to keep this freak from doing the same thing to another innocent girl, but I was young and foolish and didn’t think about that. All I could focus on was leaving while I still could. I explained my problem to the mall security guards, and they were really good about it. For a few months, they kept a lookout for him and escorted me out to my vehicle when I worked late. To my intense relief, I never saw hide nor hair of him again.
It took me a while to realize my original mistake. I had put too much information on my dating profile, including my place of work. What a moron I was! That evening could have ended up as a total horror story if I had not escaped! I thank God that my mother had warned me about all the nuts and lunatics out there and I at least took sensible precautions when I was on a date.
For more advice with online dating, see the link below:
Advice for Dating Online
What is sex appeal exactly? Most dictionaries describe it as”the capability to attract sexual interest from others”, but dictionaries also describe sexy as being”sexually interesting or exciting.” You might confuse the two as being the same, but you would be wrong, as you will see below.
Say a man sees a pretty female across the room wearing a mini skirt, and low cut top to show off her cleavage. He may trip over his tongue because she looks sexy, but would he take the time for a second look? While the two are often blurry at the boundaries it is quite common to see someone as described above. So what do you have to do to get a more appreciative look?
Men tend to focus on what is currently in front of their eyes, and there will always be another sexy girl around the corner. Sexy is a requirement for and immediate grab at attention, but unlike sex appeal it will never hold interest. Sexy appeals to the eye, and will generally never amount to more than that. Someone who dresses for impact can be sexy, but it will never lead to someone thinking about you for hours, and that is the difference here. Sexy is only the top of the muffin.
Sex appeal is much more than that, it has its roots in having self confidence, and your value if yourself. When a person has this total package they exude an aura that demands recognition by others. This aura projects onto surrounding people and makes them feel good as well. Anybody with sex appeal will will command positive attention regardless of the attire. She has a stature and presence that can be flattered by what she wears, but it is not because of what she wears. Her sense of style and self worth shines though the apparel. Women with sex appeal are always humorous, intelligent and in touch with their sexuality and sensuality. We've all been around an up-beat individual who seems to smile all the time, and laughs a lot, even when things may be concerning for them. This joy of life is a cornerstone of sex appeal.
Sex appeal attracts, radiates and commands attention. Females with sex appeal appreciate you in spite of your faults, they do not let one bad experience affect their relationships with others. They compartmentalize their expectations of each acquaintance individually. Sex appeal generally emanates from positive outgoing people never run down, but rather talk up other people. This all stems from being the loving human beings that they are.
Now do you see the differences? It pretty much boils down to this simple observation-- if you have learned to love yourself, and others, it will emanate into sex appeal as, sex appeal is really all about stature, personal development and image of yourself. Men will look at sexy—no doubt, but it takes the whole person to get past his eyes, into his head, and ultimately into his heart.
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I noticed him first at the bus stop. He took the same bus as I did to go to work during the week and we would usually joke and chat. He was just an all around nice guy. Each of us worked downtown and did the commute daily. It was not so strange that we worked in the same block so the probability was really high that some day we would meet at the food court when buying lunch. It was not too long before that day came around. I was eating by myself when he wandered over with his tray and asked if he could sit with me. So we sat together and had a pleasant lunch talking about innocuous things. I thought to my self what a great guy and not bad looking either. But as often is the case, looks can be deceiving.
He was recently divorced and was still adjusting to single life. He said that dating again was the toughest thing to get used to. I agreed as I was also divorced as well so I understood what he was taking about. He seemed very surprised to find out that I to was divorced, he said that my ex must have been a moron to let me go. I said how sweet of you to say that. “Well its true!” he said. “You're a great women and if I thought you would say yes I would ask you out”. So we ended up agreeing to go on a date together.
We had many mutual interests. This really helped to launch our relationship from passing fancy to very interested in a hurry.We took it slow which was fine by me because neither one of us wanted to rush into anything too soon. As we grew closer, it just seemed inevitable that the day would come when we wanted to take things to the next level. Both of us were pretty uptight about it. What if we did something wrong? What if we got into a bad relationship again? Even so, we both made a commitment to go to his cottage for a romantic interlude the next weekend.
The weekend finally rolled around. I must admit that I had been like a little kid all week impatient for it to come. He picked me up on time and we had an enjoyable, if uneventful, drive to his love nest. His idea of a cottage certainly did not match mine. It needed a ton of work. I had no idea what he was thinking to take me (or any woman for that matter) there. I am not a super particular person most of the time, but this was so far below my expectations that I was entirely speechless! We had to sleep in a very small tent that I discovered had a very large snake inside. As I fled into the night screaming in fear, he ran behind me asking what he could do to make the situation more livable. I said that he should get a bigger tent, and that there was only one type of snake that I was not afraid of!
The next day, I quietly packed up and told him I do not think that we had a future together. I felt like a heel as he quietly drove me home, but I needed to look out for myself. I was concerned that his exaggeration of his cottage was just the tip of the iceberg. How could I trust him?
Later that evening, I talked to my best friend about how upset and let down I was. She proceeded to tell me some outrageous stories about crazy things that had happened to her over the years. I was laughing so hard by the end that I had tears coming out of my eyes. Thank God for that. At the end she let me know this site on the Internet that she had used to find some decent dating sites. It was how she had found her current boyfriend, and it was looking pretty serious. I thought, “What the heck. How can it hurt?” So I gave it a try.
Over the next few months, I interacted with many men that I met on a couple of the dating sites. I even went out with several of them, but there was just no spark. Then 'he' came along. He seemed to be everything I was looking for and more. We had interacted online for some time before he finally gave me his phone number. By this time I was starting to dispare that he did not like me or something. The first time I called him, his voice seemed very familiar to me. Something was nagging at me that I knew that voice, but I just could not figure out where from. I just put it down to coincidence, and that he just sounded a bit like someone I knew. We laughed and joked as we talked over the next few weeks. I had such an easy time talking to him. I was so happy I got that link. I still cannot imagine what a better gift could be. I was floating on air. I felt like a teenager again.|I was bouncing around like a teenager. Bubbling with enthusiasm and overjoyed. All my friends noticed and remarked on it!. During that time, I was so happy that all my friends kept commenting on it. What a joy he brought to my life!
About the only thing that was strange about our online relationship was that I had never seen his picture. He said that he was not photogenic and felt it would be best if I judged his looks by seeing him in person.
So finally the big day was almost here. We had finally decided to meet in person. I was feeling a bit uncertain because my conversations for the last couple of days with him were a bit strange to my way of thinking. He said that he was afraid I would take one look at him and run the other way. Now I was a little confused. Maybe he looked like a Leprechaun! Although I vowed not to run away on him more than once, he still seemed to be concerned.
Instead of picking me up, he insisted on meeting me at his country place. So he gave me the directions to his place. On the way, I experienced Deja Vu a few times. It was almost as if I knew what was around some of the bends before I got there. As the feeling grew more intense, it finally dawned on my why this was so familiar. This was the same area where the guy with the snakes in his tent lived! I almost turned around right on the spot, but what could I do? I had given him my word. So I kept on going. I was in my third round of kicking myself when he flagged me down on the road. He had been waiting for me a short ways from his tent villa!
As I got out of the car, I walked to the trunk opened it and proceeded to look for my tire iron so I could clobber him. He ran up to me and pinned my arms before I could do anything rash. I told me to please relax so that I could see his real surprise. As he lead me to what I thought was going to be the old out house, I stopped dead in my tracks. I was stunned! I couldn't believe my eyes! There standing before me was the most beautiful cottage I had ever seen. He said that he had loved me from the moment he had met me, but realized after that disastrous night that he had to do something extraordinary to get me to consider him again.
He told me he decided to finish the cottage for me first, because I deserved something special and nice. He took out a loan and used all his savings. He did all that just for me! “WOW!” I was overwhelmed. I began to cry to think that someone could care about me so much.
That was four years ago, and we are still going strong. We got formally hitched a few months after that. The more time I spent with him, the more I realized just how special he was and how much more I loved him.
I know I met him before I found him again on a dating site but it was that link that gave me a second chance with him and total happiness. I thank my friend every day for what she did for me. She is truly a once in a lifetime pal.
So if your alone and want to find someone to share your life with, then the link below can show you the way.
Find Your Match
This is the time when many women have been thinking about their parents.
In the majority of cases, you have already done your own mothers day or father's day purchases, but is there something more that you can do?
An exploration of your immediate friends would likely find someone of personal interest to you.
Is there a single father that you know who is so tied up with his kids that he never seems to get a chance to get out on his own? You know the type. A great guy who just does not have the time, inclination or money to do the bar scene anymore looking for action. In other words, a great husband for the right woman.
Have you already tried to set him up on a blind date but are out of friends to try to match him up with?
But you cannot act on your urge because you have run out of contacts to set him up with.
So how about this as the perfect gift for your friend?
A situation where he can select the next person to go out with!
A mechanism that allows him to chat and email with lots of nice women from the comfort of his home after his kids are asleep!
How about a way to relieve his loneliness without having to pick up a phone and listen to fake 'sexy women' on some chat line!
Seems hard to believe? Well it is as easy as signing him up to an online dating site.
The bad press you may have heard about online dating sites not being all that successful may give you pause. But do you know that the main reason people fail on dating sites is not about who they are, it is about how they present themselves. In other words, most men are clueless about what their most attractive assets are when it comes to attracting the right sort of woman.
Enter you!
The best present for your single father friend would be to purchase him a membership to an online dating site. To add a personal touch, you create the account for them. Set up the profile, select a few of those great pictures that you have of him enjoying himself with friends, and then write up profile text that would make any woman weep with joy to read.
After all, only a woman knows how to truly reach the soul of another woman.
Do your friend a favor.
Spend the time to give him the gift of companionship for a lifetime.
Nothing could be a better gift than that – ever!!
For a solid starting point, check out this link for ideas of the best online dating sites to select from:
Online Dating Sites
